I am fascinated by the optimal conditions for personal change. What helps us change? How do we stick to our resolutions? How do we turn intentions into habits? Is it possible to help other people change?
You’ve probably heard the adage you can’t change anyone other than yourself. But I recently heard a presentation that challenged that assumption. The presenter said we wouldn’t have coaches if we couldn’t effect change in other people. (Don’t try this with the unwilling or everyone will be unhappy.)
I have been reading Play Anything by Ian Bogost. So far, I have to say that it’s not what I expected. It does make me think about the seriousness with which we attempt to control our lives and environments and what might change for the better when we stop trying to do that.
I am a Little Free Library Steward* and took the pledge to Read in Color. Read in Color is an initiative to bring diverse books to Little Free Libraries. Everyone deserves to see themselves in the pages of a book, or better yet, as the hero of the story! Thanks to the excellent recommendations of @asianlitforkids and @ihaveabook4that, I have new books to add to my library.
This will come as a surprise to those of you who know me IRL: I’ve been reading fiction. I recently finished Midnight Sun by Stephenie Meyer and Meet Me at the Museum by Anne Youngson. My better half read Midnight Sun out loud to us at night. I love vampire stories as much as I love being read to. Being read to is something I never grew out of, or maybe more accurately, I grew back into as an adult. Currently, the Chez Haiku read-aloud selection is The Midnight Library by Matt Haig (also recommended). If you have other book suggestions with midnight in the title, let me know. Why not collect them all?
I’ve also been reading books about darning. I am interested in fixing things in general, and I learned about visible mending as an art form last year.
Mending Life has a beautiful piece about socks that made me re-think my “hole-equals-throw-it-away” mentality. I’ll keep you posted on my darning adventure! If you aren’t ready to commit to darning, consider recycling your old socks with Smart Wool.
I’m currently reading Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski. I learned about these amazing twin sisters from Brené Brown, and less than 10 minutes into the podcast, I was checking out the book from the library. I picked it up yesterday and read the introduction and the first chapter this morning. I highly recommend it to anyone (everyone?) dealing with stress and burnout.
TL;DR? Listen to the Nagoski sisters on Brené Brown’s podcast, Unlocking Us.